Pornography gives unrealistic expectations of what people should look like. It can lead both girls and boys to have anxieties and feel under pressure to have a certain body image.
Pornography can change the way you think about people.
An emphasis on physical appearance is prevalent in today’s culture: in films, magazines and advertising. Such an emphasis will make it harder to establish good relationships and to treat the opposite sex with love and respect.
Pornography gives unrealistic expectations of… Read more.
It’s important to have a full understanding of what consent truly is – but when is it right to give such consent?
A young woman in her mid-twenties looks back…
I was fourteen when I started going out with my first serious boyfriend. He was older than me and he went to a different school, and just seemed more mature. He was quite charming – he was nice to me.
After two… Read more.
When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort and confuse our minds and affect how we relate to others.
Using pornography makes it harder to form a good relationship.
Pornography cuts up a person by separating the object of lust from the reality of the person – their lives, thoughts, needs and situation. When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort… Read more.
Is there a good use for social media?
A study recently claimed that people under 35 in the UK spend over 3.5 hours on social media every day. I am not sure who they asked, but that seems pretty low to me! Maybe I just spend too much time on my phone! There are great things about social… Read more.
You feel that you love someone. You want to be with them. You find it difficult not to think about them.
We live in a very emotion-driven age. We are tempted to think that when we feel something strongly, it must be right. We are encouraged to accept that when we want something strongly, we are justified in having our desires fulfilled. Perhaps nowhere is this more often felt than with… Read more.
As pornography is dangerous, it is important not to become involved or get caught out by it. Only you can make the final decision about what you choose to look at.
Think carefully about what you watch and read. Often the images and messages, even in the mainstream media, can be sexually provocative and make us want to look for more explicit material.
Turn on ‘safe search’ so that most inappropriate content will be filtered out. For more protection,… Read more.
It can stream into our homes and on to our phones and is estimated to account for about 10 to 15 percent of all internet searches. But why is pornography so wrong and dangerous?
At the heart of the problem with pornography is the fact that it promotes sexual arousal outside of a relationship, which has many dangerous consequences. This is the first of a series of articles which look at some of these consequences.
Pornography damages our relationship with God.
The Bible teaches… Read more.
A man gives his testimony.
I was single until I got married in my mid-forties. I can testify to the many temptations and challenges to my purity during that time. There were times when I felt frustrated by my singleness and jealous of the married people around me who seemed to be enjoying fulfilled sex… Read more.
Christians should not go out with or marry non-Christians. Why do we believe that?
Well, the most important reason is that God tells us so in the Bible. The clearest declaration of this is found in 2 Corinthians 6: 14-16
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What… Read more.
Why is asking for or sending sexy text messages and ‘nudes’ wrong and dangerous?
Remember that having sexually explicit pictures, including underwear shots, of anyone less than 18 years (this includes images of yourself or your girlfriend/boyfriend) on your phone is illegal (in the UK), and could lead to a caution or conviction, which could then have damaging implications for your future.
Why is… Read more.
What does it mean to be truly free? Free to follow our desires, or to be free to control our desires?
I once heard of a man who visited his friend in a rural part of the USA. He was amazed to observe that when he got out of his car, he left his key in the ignition! When he questioned his friend about the wisdom of doing this, his friend… Read more.
Since God intends sex only for marriage – what benefits does He bless us with, if we chose to do so?
The Bible is clear that we are to keep sex for marriage; whenever we live according to God’s intentions, there are always benefits and blessings. Here are some of them:
1. It allows you to get to know each other better without sexual involvement.
It is hard, if not impossible,… Read more.