It is important that we think about how our motivations and behaviours impact those around us – especially when it comes to the possibility of romance.
This is a common question from young people in church youth groups who are feeling attracted to a Christian young man or young woman who might even become a godly wife or husband in the future.
Recognise others in the group as Christian brothers and sisters.
It is easy to… Read more.
3 important principles
God has designed us to go through puberty. The changes to our bodies and minds during this phase of life are no accident but are perfectly designed by God to prepare us for new opportunities, to live independently from our parents and perhaps, one day, to have a family of… Read more.
What is the difference between being attracted to someone and lusting after them? And if lust is a problem, how can we stop?
Physical attraction is natural and helpful in deciding who to marry, though it shouldn’t be the main decider. Lust involves allowing our thoughts about another person to turn sexual outside of marriage . Lust can be especially difficult for men because they are often easily provoked by what they see,… Read more.
Claiming to be ‘bisexual’ seems to be popular at the moment. The Bible distinguishes what we desire from what we do, and who we are from what we desire.
Claiming to be ‘bisexual’ seems to be popular at the moment. It can mean different things to different people. To some it means being sexually attracted to both sexes. To others it means wanting to be or being in a sexual relationship with both sexes. Sometimes it is not only… Read more.
Pornography gives unrealistic expectations of what people should look like. It can lead both girls and boys to have anxieties and feel under pressure to have a certain body image.
Pornography can change the way you think about people.
An emphasis on physical appearance is prevalent in today’s culture: in films, magazines and advertising. Such an emphasis will make it harder to establish good relationships and to treat the opposite sex with love and respect.
Pornography gives unrealistic expectations of… Read more.
It’s important to have a full understanding of what consent truly is – but when is it right to give such consent?
A young woman in her mid-twenties looks back…
I was fourteen when I started going out with my first serious boyfriend. He was older than me and he went to a different school, and just seemed more mature. He was quite charming – he was nice to me.
After two… Read more.
When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort and confuse our minds and affect how we relate to others.
Using pornography makes it harder to form a good relationship.
Pornography cuts up a person by separating the object of lust from the reality of the person – their lives, thoughts, needs and situation. When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort… Read more.
Is there a good use for social media?
A study recently claimed that people under 35 in the UK spend over 3.5 hours on social media every day. I am not sure who they asked, but that seems pretty low to me! Maybe I just spend too much time on my phone! There are great things about social… Read more.
You feel that you love someone. You want to be with them. You find it difficult not to think about them.
We live in a very emotion-driven age. We are tempted to think that when we feel something strongly, it must be right. We are encouraged to accept that when we want something strongly, we are justified in having our desires fulfilled. Perhaps nowhere is this more often felt than with… Read more.
As pornography is dangerous, it is important not to become involved or get caught out by it. Only you can make the final decision about what you choose to look at.
Think carefully about what you watch and read. Often the images and messages, even in the mainstream media, can be sexually provocative and make us want to look for more explicit material.
Turn on ‘safe search’ so that most inappropriate content will be filtered out. For more protection,… Read more.
It can stream into our homes and on to our phones and is estimated to account for about 10 to 15 percent of all internet searches. But why is pornography so wrong and dangerous?
At the heart of the problem with pornography is the fact that it promotes sexual arousal outside of a relationship, which has many dangerous consequences. This is the first of a series of articles which look at some of these consequences.
Pornography damages our relationship with God.
The Bible teaches… Read more.
A man gives his testimony.
I was single until I got married in my mid-forties. I can testify to the many temptations and challenges to my purity during that time. There were times when I felt frustrated by my singleness and jealous of the married people around me who seemed to be enjoying fulfilled sex… Read more.