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Is consent enough?

It’s important to have a full understanding of what consent truly is – but when is it right to give such consent?

A young woman in her mid-twenties looks back… I was fourteen when I started going out with my first serious boyfriend. He was older than me and he went to a different school, and just seemed more mature. He was quite charming – he was nice to me. After two… Read more.
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Pornography (part 2): Spoiling future relationships

When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort and confuse our minds and affect how we relate to others.

Using pornography makes it harder to form a good relationship. Pornography cuts up a person by separating the object of lust from the reality of the person – their lives, thoughts, needs and situation. When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort… Read more.
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How can I know if he or she really loves me?

Love is a word we use very often; it describes our feelings for all sorts of things from chocolate to a new car!

We often use the word ‘love’ to describe our feelings for people in our family: parents, children, siblings. We also talk about the romantic feeling of ‘falling in love’ with someone who is not in our family. But how can we know that this romantic love is true, and that… Read more.
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Learning to be content in singleness

Being single can actually be a great blessing, and allow you to be a blessing to others – but this can be difficult to see when we feel lonely. How can we cultivate true contentment?

Singleness enables many people to achieve things in their lives that would not be possible if they were married and had children. This is particularly true for Christians who remain single and live very fruitful lives for God’s Kingdom. Many single Christians are able to care for family members, fulfil… Read more.
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Love or lust?

You feel that you love someone. You want to be with them. You find it difficult not to think about them.

We live in a very emotion-driven age. We are tempted to think that when we feel something strongly, it must be right. We are encouraged to accept that when we want something strongly, we are justified in having our desires fulfilled. Perhaps nowhere is this more often felt than with… Read more.
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Making good decisions about pornography

As pornography is dangerous, it is important not to become involved or get caught out by it. Only you can make the final decision about what you choose to look at.

Be careful. Think carefully about what you watch and read. Often the images and messages, even in the mainstream media, can be sexually provocative and make us want to look for more explicit material. Turn on ‘safe search’ so that most inappropriate content will be filtered out. For more protection,… Read more.
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Tips to help make a marriage successful: Part 3

A crucial aspect of a good marriage is to complement one another: husband and wife each act in different ways for the good of both.

Remember your role Complementarity is an essential part of God designed marriage. To complement means to act together in different ways for the good of both. One essential element of the first marriage was that God brought Eve to Adam as his “helper”. She was his companion and his partner… Read more.
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Pornography (part 1): Damage to our relationship with God

It can stream into our homes and on to our phones and is estimated to account for about 10 to 15 percent of all internet searches. But why is pornography so wrong and dangerous?

At the heart of the problem with pornography is the fact that it promotes sexual arousal outside of a relationship, which has many dangerous consequences. This is the first of a series of articles which look at some of these consequences. Pornography damages our relationship with God. The Bible teaches… Read more.
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Marriage – 3 Things I have learned

Susan and Max have been married for three years. Susan shares three things she has learned about marriage.

1. What sharing a life with someone really means. With these joys of marriage come responsibilities too. We had to think carefully about our actions and reactions. When we got married we knew we were committing to a life together, but what that really meant became clear as time went… Read more.
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Singleness and sexual purity

A man gives his testimony.

I was single until I got married in my mid-forties. I can testify to the many temptations and challenges to my purity during that time. There were times when I felt frustrated by my singleness and jealous of the married people around me who seemed to be enjoying fulfilled sex… Read more.
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Are men of God always great examples?

How can we hold up men, such as Abraham, Jacob and David, as ‘heroes of the faith’ when each of them also did terrible things?

In the Bible we can read accounts of people with an especially close relationship with God. These people, such as Abraham, Jacob and David, were given promises and blessings that are spoken of through the whole Bible and are revealed to have their fulfilment in Jesus Christ. But, we may… Read more.