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Does having a relationship conflict with feminism?

In order to answer this question, we need to clarify what feminism is.

Defining feminism is particularly difficult because the word has been used to mean many things to different people at different times. Feminism’s first wave is usually dated back to the late 19th and early 20th centuries and focused particularly on establishing a woman’s right to vote. Interestingly, before this time,… Read more.
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How should I relate to the opposite sex?

It is important that we think about how our motivations and behaviours impact those around us – especially when it comes to the possibility of romance.

This is a common question from young people in church youth groups who are feeling attracted to a Christian young man or young woman who might even become a godly wife or husband in the future. Recognise others in the group as Christian brothers and sisters. It is easy to… Read more.
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Should I ask him out?

You have a growing friendship with a lovely Christian guy and you would like it to go further, but he seems to be reluctant to take any initiative. What, if anything, should you do?

This is not an unusual scenario. This can be for all kinds of reasons. Some men don’t like the prospect of being turned down. Some men find it difficult to know their minds and hearts. Some men are hesitant to commit. In the Christian community the stakes seem high –… Read more.
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How can I know if he or she really loves me?

Love is a word we use very often; it describes our feelings for all sorts of things from chocolate to a new car!

We often use the word ‘love’ to describe our feelings for people in our family: parents, children, siblings. We also talk about the romantic feeling of ‘falling in love’ with someone who is not in our family. But how can we know that this romantic love is true, and that… Read more.
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Learning to be content in singleness

Being single can actually be a great blessing, and allow you to be a blessing to others – but this can be difficult to see when we feel lonely. How can we cultivate true contentment?

Singleness enables many people to achieve things in their lives that would not be possible if they were married and had children. This is particularly true for Christians who remain single and live very fruitful lives for God’s Kingdom. Many single Christians are able to care for family members, fulfil… Read more.
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Love or lust?

You feel that you love someone. You want to be with them. You find it difficult not to think about them.

We live in a very emotion-driven age. We are tempted to think that when we feel something strongly, it must be right. We are encouraged to accept that when we want something strongly, we are justified in having our desires fulfilled. Perhaps nowhere is this more often felt than with… Read more.
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Tips to help make a marriage successful: Part 3

A crucial aspect of a good marriage is to complement one another: husband and wife each act in different ways for the good of both.

Remember your role Complementarity is an essential part of God designed marriage. To complement means to act together in different ways for the good of both. One essential element of the first marriage was that God brought Eve to Adam as his “helper”. She was his companion and his partner… Read more.
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Marriage – 3 Things I have learned

Susan and Max have been married for three years. Susan shares three things she has learned about marriage.

1. What sharing a life with someone really means. With these joys of marriage come responsibilities too. We had to think carefully about our actions and reactions. When we got married we knew we were committing to a life together, but what that really meant became clear as time went… Read more.
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Singleness and sexual purity

A man gives his testimony.

I was single until I got married in my mid-forties. I can testify to the many temptations and challenges to my purity during that time. There were times when I felt frustrated by my singleness and jealous of the married people around me who seemed to be enjoying fulfilled sex… Read more.
Middle aged couple sitting nest to each other. Smiling at the camera. The woman is on the left and the man on the right.

Tips to help make a marriage successful: Part 2

Taking vows seriously and being prepared to keep communicating are just two things that can help the strength of a marriage.

Take promises seriously Marriage is based on promises, sometimes called vows. These promises are the most important part of the wedding ceremony whether it takes place in a church or is a civil ceremony and takes place in a hotel, a registry office, a castle or even on a beach.… Read more.
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Lessons from Love Island

It is natural to desire loving relationships, but does sex always express love?

The 2018 series of the dating reality TV programme Love Island recently ended. The show which is in its 4th season involves a group of contestants, who in order to remain on the show and win £50,000, are forced to ‘pair up’ with another contestant. The show begins with the… Read more.
Middle aged couple sitting nest to each other. Smiling at the camera. The woman is on the left and the man on the right.

Tips to help make a marriage successful: Part 1

Deciding to get married is one of the most important decisions you might make in your life. How can you prepare for such an important decision?

Understand what marriage is. Wherever we look, marriage appears to be in trouble, and many young people are growing up in a home where the example of a happy and faithful marriage does not exist. This can make it hard to look forward to marriage and perhaps even harder to… Read more.