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Why save sex for marriage? – a testimonial

I remember when I was a teenager, that so many of my class mates seemed to be having sex, it was almost like I was the weird one for wanting to wait until I was married.

A few years further down the line at university, there were guys I liked, and some of my non-Christian friends would ask, “Have you slept with him?”. “Of course not”, I would answer, to which they would inevitably ask “But how will you know if he is worth going out… Read more.
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Lust: How can I stop?

What is the difference between being attracted to someone and lusting after them? And if lust is a problem, how can we stop?

Physical attraction is natural and helpful in deciding who to marry, though it shouldn’t be the main decider. Lust involves allowing our thoughts about another person to turn sexual outside of marriage [1]. Lust can be especially difficult for men because they are often easily provoked by what they see,… Read more.
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Should I ask him out?

You have a growing friendship with a lovely Christian guy and you would like it to go further, but he seems to be reluctant to take any initiative. What, if anything, should you do?

This is not an unusual scenario. This can be for all kinds of reasons. Some men don’t like the prospect of being turned down. Some men find it difficult to know their minds and hearts. Some men are hesitant to commit. In the Christian community the stakes seem high –… Read more.
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How can I know if he or she really loves me?

Love is a word we use very often; it describes our feelings for all sorts of things from chocolate to a new car!

We often use the word ‘love’ to describe our feelings for people in our family: parents, children, siblings. We also talk about the romantic feeling of ‘falling in love’ with someone who is not in our family. But how can we know that this romantic love is true, and that… Read more.
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Love or lust?

You feel that you love someone. You want to be with them. You find it difficult not to think about them.

We live in a very emotion-driven age. We are tempted to think that when we feel something strongly, it must be right. We are encouraged to accept that when we want something strongly, we are justified in having our desires fulfilled. Perhaps nowhere is this more often felt than with… Read more.
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Marriage – 3 Things I have learned

Susan and Max have been married for three years. Susan shares three things she has learned about marriage.

1. What sharing a life with someone really means. With these joys of marriage come responsibilities too. We had to think carefully about our actions and reactions. When we got married we knew we were committing to a life together, but what that really meant became clear as time went… Read more.
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5 questions to ask yourself before going out with someone.

We can want to go out with someone for all sorts of reasons; but not all reasons are good reasons. Thinking seriously first can help you avoid heartache later.

1. Why go out? Though it is important to have fun while dating it is most important to think seriously about it. After all, when you start a relationship there are a lot of feelings involved. You need to be careful with your own and the other person’s feelings, regardless… Read more.
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Can we talk?

Honest communication is so important in any close relationship. It is essential to establishing trust. It is especially important in marriage.

If you are wondering whether someone would make a suitable spouse, ask this question, ‘Can you open your hearts and minds to one another and come to one mind on the big things of life?’. It isn’t that you must agree on absolutely everything, but you certainly need to on… Read more.