Why can’t we just agree that love is love?

The phrase ‘love is love’ is common, but can be misleading

When people say that ‘love is love’, they usually mean that people should be allowed to date and marry whoever they like regardless of whether they are male or female. But this phrase ignores the fact there are many different kinds of love – family love (parent/child or between siblings),… Read more.

The importance of friendship

It is easy to forget how important friendship is

In our society, almost everything we see and hear is about romantic and sexual relationships. Everyone is looking for “the one”. We are wrongly told that to be fulfilled in life, we must be in a sexual relationship. So, what about friendship? Is it important? As human beings made in… Read more.
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Lessons from Love Island

It is natural to desire loving relationships, but does sex always express love?

The 2021 series of the dating reality TV programme Love Island has recently begun. The show is now in its 7th season and involves a group of contestants, who in order to remain on the show and win £50,000, are forced to ‘pair up’ with another contestant. The show begins… Read more.

What makes a good friend?

How do we make good friends, and more importantly, how do we make sure we are a good friend?

As we go through life, whether we’re male or female, single or married, one thing we all have in common is that we need friendship.  The Bible tells us that we were created for company (Gen 2:18), and that friendship is good and helpful for us (Prov 18:1, Eccl 4:9-12);… Read more.
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Stuck at home!

The current situation is something new for all of us. No school/college/university, no socialising with friends, at home with parents and siblings 24/7!

What are the difficulties/dangers we might face and what might the benefits be? How can we survive this period and how can we grow in our walk with God? Difficulties/dangers Anxiety – I’m sure like me, even a couple of weeks ago, you couldn’t have imagined this situation. It was… Read more.
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Looking for love that will last

Most people desperately want to love and be loved.

This is no surprise since God made us in His image and God is love [1]. Sadly, we live in a society where love is often equated with sex and Satan has deceived many into thinking that giving in to sexual desires will secure love and that compromising on Biblical… Read more.
Various cloth labels with string attached on a wooden background. The top label is embroidered with the word "love".

‘Love has no limits, love has no labels’

I saw these words written on a banner. The message seems catchy and welcoming to all. But is it the truth or is it an attractive deception? And what is meant by love?

The Bible clearly states that true love is from God. In fact such love is so much part of God’s character that the Apostle John writes that ‘God is Love’. God’s love is shown above all in the giving of His Son, Jesus Christ to die for the sins of… Read more.
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Should I ask him out?

You have a growing friendship with a lovely Christian guy and you would like it to go further, but he seems to be reluctant to take any initiative. What, if anything, should you do?

This is not an unusual scenario. This can be for all kinds of reasons. Some men don’t like the prospect of being turned down. Some men find it difficult to know their minds and hearts. Some men are hesitant to commit. In the Christian community the stakes seem high –… Read more.
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How can I know if he or she really loves me?

Love is a word we use very often; it describes our feelings for all sorts of things from chocolate to a new car!

We often use the word ‘love’ to describe our feelings for people in our family: parents, children, siblings. We also talk about the romantic feeling of ‘falling in love’ with someone who is not in our family. But how can we know that this romantic love is true, and that… Read more.
Young womans and man holding hands . Looking intently at each others eyes.

Love or lust?

You feel that you love someone. You want to be with them. You find it difficult not to think about them.

We live in a very emotion-driven age. We are tempted to think that when we feel something strongly, it must be right. We are encouraged to accept that when we want something strongly, we are justified in having our desires fulfilled. Perhaps nowhere is this more often felt than with… Read more.