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Why save sex for marriage? – a testimonial

I remember when I was a teenager, that so many of my class mates seemed to be having sex, it was almost like I was the weird one for wanting to wait until I was married.

A few years further down the line at university, there were guys I liked, and some of my non-Christian friends would ask, “Have you slept with him?”. “Of course not”, I would answer, to which they would inevitably ask “But how will you know if he is worth going out… Read more.
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Does having a relationship conflict with feminism?

In order to answer this question, we need to clarify what feminism is.

Defining feminism is particularly difficult because the word has been used to mean many things to different people at different times. Feminism’s first wave is usually dated back to the late 19th and early 20th centuries and focused particularly on establishing a woman’s right to vote. Interestingly, before this time,… Read more.
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Pornography (part 3): Effects on behaviour and mental health

Pornography gives unrealistic expectations of what people should look like. It can lead both girls and boys to have anxieties and feel under pressure to have a certain body image.

Pornography can change the way you think about people. An emphasis on physical appearance is prevalent in today’s culture: in films, magazines and advertising. Such an emphasis will make it harder to establish good relationships and to treat the opposite sex with love and respect. Pornography gives unrealistic expectations of… Read more.
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Is consent enough?

It’s important to have a full understanding of what consent truly is – but when is it right to give such consent?

A young woman in her mid-twenties looks back… I was fourteen when I started going out with my first serious boyfriend. He was older than me and he went to a different school, and just seemed more mature. He was quite charming – he was nice to me. After two… Read more.
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Pornography (part 2): Spoiling future relationships

When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort and confuse our minds and affect how we relate to others.

Using pornography makes it harder to form a good relationship. Pornography cuts up a person by separating the object of lust from the reality of the person – their lives, thoughts, needs and situation. When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort… Read more.
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Love or lust?

You feel that you love someone. You want to be with them. You find it difficult not to think about them.

We live in a very emotion-driven age. We are tempted to think that when we feel something strongly, it must be right. We are encouraged to accept that when we want something strongly, we are justified in having our desires fulfilled. Perhaps nowhere is this more often felt than with… Read more.
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Lessons from Love Island

It is natural to desire loving relationships, but does sex always express love?

The 2018 series of the dating reality TV programme Love Island recently ended. The show which is in its 4th season involves a group of contestants, who in order to remain on the show and win £50,000, are forced to ‘pair up’ with another contestant. The show begins with the… Read more.
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Handle with care

How physical should you be when you are in a relationship?

How physical should you be when you are in a relationship? If you find your girl/boyfriend attractive, there will be a natural desire for greater physical intimacy. But the issue to think about is not what is attractive to you or what might fulfil your desires, rather how can you… Read more.
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Saving Sex for Marriage: 10 Reasons Why

Since God intends sex only for marriage – what benefits does He bless us with, if we chose to do so?

The Bible is clear that we are to keep sex for marriage; whenever we live according to God’s intentions, there are always benefits and blessings. Here are some of them: 1. It allows you to get to know each other better without sexual involvement. It is hard, if not impossible,… Read more.