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Is Jesus a bigot?

It is fashionable to call Christians bigots because they stand opposed to the prevailing sexual ethics and seek to point people towards a better narrative.

Is Jesus obstinately or intolerantly devoted to His own opinions? Did He treat members of other racial or ethnic groups with hatred and intolerance? [1] Jesus was firm and uncompromising in His teaching He certainly offended particular groups of people, which resulted in extensive, strong and ultimately violent reactions to… Read more.
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What is wrong with masturbation?

Some people claim that it is a natural response to natural desires. The Bible challenges us to think differently.

You may have heard of masturbation (self stimulation) being presented in a positive way as a normal healthy activity. It is claimed that it can help young people ease anxiety and, after or even during puberty, relieve sexual frustration. So is there anything wrong with this teaching? What is a… Read more.
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Should I ask him out?

You have a growing friendship with a lovely Christian guy and you would like it to go further, but he seems to be reluctant to take any initiative. What, if anything, should you do?

This is not an unusual scenario. This can be for all kinds of reasons. Some men don’t like the prospect of being turned down. Some men find it difficult to know their minds and hearts. Some men are hesitant to commit. In the Christian community the stakes seem high –… Read more.
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Pornography (part 3): Effects on behaviour and mental health

Pornography gives unrealistic expectations of what people should look like. It can lead both girls and boys to have anxieties and feel under pressure to have a certain body image.

Pornography can change the way you think about people. An emphasis on physical appearance is prevalent in today’s culture: in films, magazines and advertising. Such an emphasis will make it harder to establish good relationships and to treat the opposite sex with love and respect. Pornography gives unrealistic expectations of… Read more.
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Pornography (part 2): Spoiling future relationships

When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort and confuse our minds and affect how we relate to others.

Using pornography makes it harder to form a good relationship. Pornography cuts up a person by separating the object of lust from the reality of the person – their lives, thoughts, needs and situation. When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort… Read more.
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Pornography (part 1): Damage to our relationship with God

It can stream into our homes and on to our phones and is estimated to account for about 10 to 15 percent of all internet searches. But why is pornography so wrong and dangerous?

At the heart of the problem with pornography is the fact that it promotes sexual arousal outside of a relationship, which has many dangerous consequences. This is the first of a series of articles which look at some of these consequences. Pornography damages our relationship with God. The Bible teaches… Read more.
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Where do STIs originate?

How did the first person catch an STI if no one else had it?

When I give talks on Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) to young people, this is one of the commonest questions. If an STI is only ever caught from someone else with an STI, logically we find ourselves asking where it all began. How did the first person catch an STI if… Read more.
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Why don’t men like to commit?

It can seem difficult to find a man, in our current society, who is willing to make the promises of commitment in marriage. Why are so many unwilling?

Many young women still dream of finding a man who is willing to devote himself to her in love, publicly declaring that he will ‘forsake all others’ for the rest of her life. Much rarer, it seems, is the man in our society, who is willing to make such a… Read more.
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What’s the point of marriage?

Marriage has existed in almost every known human society since the beginning of history. Though the customs associated with it may vary, marriage always has three main purposes.

Marriage has existed in almost every known human society since the beginning of history, even though the customs associated with marriage may vary in different cultures. But wherever it is found, marriage has three main purposes: Companionship The two people getting married grow together in love and trust. They help… Read more.