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Pornography (part 3): Effects on behaviour and mental health

Pornography gives unrealistic expectations of what people should look like. It can lead both girls and boys to have anxieties and feel under pressure to have a certain body image.

Pornography can change the way you think about people. An emphasis on physical appearance is prevalent in today’s culture: in films, magazines and advertising. Such an emphasis will make it harder to establish good relationships and to treat the opposite sex with love and respect. Pornography gives unrealistic expectations of… Read more.
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Is consent enough?

It’s important to have a full understanding of what consent truly is – but when is it right to give such consent?

A young woman in her mid-twenties looks back… I was fourteen when I started going out with my first serious boyfriend. He was older than me and he went to a different school, and just seemed more mature. He was quite charming – he was nice to me. After two… Read more.
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Pornography (part 2): Spoiling future relationships

When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort and confuse our minds and affect how we relate to others.

Using pornography makes it harder to form a good relationship. Pornography cuts up a person by separating the object of lust from the reality of the person – their lives, thoughts, needs and situation. When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort… Read more.
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Love or lust?

You feel that you love someone. You want to be with them. You find it difficult not to think about them.

We live in a very emotion-driven age. We are tempted to think that when we feel something strongly, it must be right. We are encouraged to accept that when we want something strongly, we are justified in having our desires fulfilled. Perhaps nowhere is this more often felt than with… Read more.
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Singleness and sexual purity

A man gives his testimony.

I was single until I got married in my mid-forties. I can testify to the many temptations and challenges to my purity during that time. There were times when I felt frustrated by my singleness and jealous of the married people around me who seemed to be enjoying fulfilled sex… Read more.
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Are men of God always great examples?

How can we hold up men, such as Abraham, Jacob and David, as ‘heroes of the faith’ when each of them also did terrible things?

In the Bible we can read accounts of people with an especially close relationship with God. These people, such as Abraham, Jacob and David, were given promises and blessings that are spoken of through the whole Bible and are revealed to have their fulfilment in Jesus Christ. But, we may… Read more.
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Transgender in children – a medical perspective

There has been a huge increase in the number of children presenting with Gender Dysphoria (Transgender) in recent years – but what are the implications of treating this medically?

You may have heard about the huge increase in the number of children with Gender Dysphoria (Transgender) who are now being referred to the Gender Identity Development Service (GIDS) in London. Or you may have seen one of the numerous TV programmes about transgender children – but what are the… Read more.
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Love online?

The internet can allow you to connect with people across the globe – but is this always wise?

The internet can be a brilliant tool. You can use it for streaming, socialising, shopping and research. You can use it to interact with people across the globe. It can help you to learn about the world and things you are interested in. It can help you to connect with… Read more.
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True Freedom

What does it mean to be truly free? Free to follow our desires, or to be free to control our desires?

I once heard of a man who visited his friend in a rural part of the USA. He was amazed to observe that when he got out of his car, he left his key in the ignition! When he questioned his friend about the wisdom of doing this, his friend… Read more.
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What is an STI?

STIs result from the spread of a variety of bacteria, viruses and a small number of other organisms.

What is an STI? God has given us sex for the secure intimacy of marriage. Unfortunately, many people have sex before/outside of the marriage relationship with multiple partners leading to the increasing spread of sexually transmitted infections. Let marriage be held in honour among all, and let the marriage bed… Read more.