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How should I relate to the opposite sex?

It is important that we think about how our motivations and behaviours impact those around us – especially when it comes to the possibility of romance.

This is a common question from young people in church youth groups who are feeling attracted to a Christian young man or young woman who might even become a godly wife or husband in the future. Recognise others in the group as Christian brothers and sisters. It is easy to… Read more.
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Lust: How can I stop?

What is the difference between being attracted to someone and lusting after them? And if lust is a problem, how can we stop?

Physical attraction is natural and helpful in deciding who to marry, though it shouldn’t be the main decider. Lust involves allowing our thoughts about another person to turn sexual outside of marriage [1]. Lust can be especially difficult for men because they are often easily provoked by what they see,… Read more.
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Should I ask him out?

You have a growing friendship with a lovely Christian guy and you would like it to go further, but he seems to be reluctant to take any initiative. What, if anything, should you do?

This is not an unusual scenario. This can be for all kinds of reasons. Some men don’t like the prospect of being turned down. Some men find it difficult to know their minds and hearts. Some men are hesitant to commit. In the Christian community the stakes seem high –… Read more.
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Singleness and sexual purity

A man gives his testimony.

I was single until I got married in my mid-forties. I can testify to the many temptations and challenges to my purity during that time. There were times when I felt frustrated by my singleness and jealous of the married people around me who seemed to be enjoying fulfilled sex… Read more.
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Christian Singleness

In terms of relationships, the Bible teaches that there are only two ways to live – single or married – and both states are gifts from God.

We all start off our lives single and in this article, as well as in the Bible, this means unmarried. Facebook profiles use “single” in a different way, meaning “not currently in a relationship”; in addition they do not assume sexual inactivity for the single person, though the Bible does.… Read more.
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Christian and non-Christian: Romance?

Christians should not go out with or marry non-Christians. Why do we believe that?

Honouring God. Well, the most important reason is that God tells us so in the Bible. The clearest declaration of this is found in 2 Corinthians 6: 14-16 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What… Read more.
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Forgiveness

The Christian message is first and foremost about forgiveness.

You might be thinking “help!” a Christian website about marriage, relationships and sex! Isn’t it just going to make me feel guilty? But please read on. This is an area of life where we will all feel that we have failed, perhaps let ourselves down, hurt others or offended God.… Read more.
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Who am I?

Identity is currently a big issue in our society and many people seem to be on a frantic search for personal identity and self-worth.

Identity, “who I am”, is currently a big issue in our society and many people seem to be on a frantic search for personal identity and self-worth, often, sadly, trying to fill an emotional void with a variety of substitutes which may lead to despair. Many young people who are… Read more.
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True Freedom

What does it mean to be truly free? Free to follow our desires, or to be free to control our desires?

I once heard of a man who visited his friend in a rural part of the USA. He was amazed to observe that when he got out of his car, he left his key in the ignition! When he questioned his friend about the wisdom of doing this, his friend… Read more.