It is important that we think about how our motivations and behaviours impact those around us – especially when it comes to the possibility of romance.
This is a common question from young people in church youth groups who are feeling attracted to a Christian young man or young woman who might even become a godly wife or husband in the future.
Recognise others in the group as Christian brothers and sisters.
It is easy to… Read more.
3 important principles
God has designed us to go through puberty. The changes to our bodies and minds during this phase of life are no accident but are perfectly designed by God to prepare us for new opportunities, to live independently from our parents and perhaps, one day, to have a family of… Read more.
What is the difference between being attracted to someone and lusting after them? And if lust is a problem, how can we stop?
Physical attraction is natural and helpful in deciding who to marry, though it shouldn’t be the main decider. Lust involves allowing our thoughts about another person to turn sexual outside of marriage . Lust can be especially difficult for men because they are often easily provoked by what they see,… Read more.
Pornography doesn’t just badly affect the people who use it – but also those who perform in it.
People are used for entertainment and money.
Pornography is a massive industry driven by money and makes a large profit each year. The actors and actresses see little of this money.
People are not treated with dignity and respect.
Those who make money from the pornography industry make it by… Read more.
Claiming to be ‘bisexual’ seems to be popular at the moment. The Bible distinguishes what we desire from what we do, and who we are from what we desire.
Claiming to be ‘bisexual’ seems to be popular at the moment. It can mean different things to different people. To some it means being sexually attracted to both sexes. To others it means wanting to be or being in a sexual relationship with both sexes. Sometimes it is not only… Read more.
When does life begin?
Whatever you think about the issue, it is hard to deny that the prospect of an abortion is momentous and life-changing, both for the mother who has found herself pregnant, probably when she did not want to be, and for the baby whose life is in danger.
There is much… Read more.
You have a growing friendship with a lovely Christian guy and you would like it to go further, but he seems to be reluctant to take any initiative. What, if anything, should you do?
This is not an unusual scenario. This can be for all kinds of reasons. Some men don’t like the prospect of being turned down. Some men find it difficult to know their minds and hearts. Some men are hesitant to commit. In the Christian community the stakes seem high –… Read more.
– a tiny organism, but a big problem.
The smallest known self-replicating bacterium, Mycoplasma genitalium (MG or Mgen), was isolated (identified and grown) in 1981 . It can be caught from sexual intimacy with someone already infected. Though scientists have known about the bacterium for decades, it has only recently been identified as the likely cause of many… Read more.
Pornography gives unrealistic expectations of what people should look like. It can lead both girls and boys to have anxieties and feel under pressure to have a certain body image.
Pornography can change the way you think about people.
An emphasis on physical appearance is prevalent in today’s culture: in films, magazines and advertising. Such an emphasis will make it harder to establish good relationships and to treat the opposite sex with love and respect.
Pornography gives unrealistic expectations of… Read more.
It’s important to have a full understanding of what consent truly is – but when is it right to give such consent?
A young woman in her mid-twenties looks back…
I was fourteen when I started going out with my first serious boyfriend. He was older than me and he went to a different school, and just seemed more mature. He was quite charming – he was nice to me.
After two… Read more.
When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort and confuse our minds and affect how we relate to others.
Using pornography makes it harder to form a good relationship.
Pornography cuts up a person by separating the object of lust from the reality of the person – their lives, thoughts, needs and situation. When we separate the act of sex from real people and real relationships, it can distort… Read more.
Love is a word we use very often; it describes our feelings for all sorts of things from chocolate to a new car!
We often use the word ‘love’ to describe our feelings for people in our family: parents, children, siblings. We also talk about the romantic feeling of ‘falling in love’ with someone who is not in our family.
But how can we know that this romantic love is true, and that… Read more.